by Leland Ancier, creator of EasyChild

Parents and kids daily interactions will always be a child's most important teacher.
Parents whether they choose to be or not, are responsible for modeling behavior for their kids. Kids are born wanting to be good and please their parents. Parents model behavior in how they act towards other people. EasyChild encourages a parenting philosophy of empowerment and bettering ourselves. All Parents and kids should be trying to improve as human beings and learn all we can, and be the best person we can be. EasyChild is a child encouragement tool which lets parents harness the enormous power they have as their children's role models to become better parents and raise more successful, happy children.

Kids learn value systems from their Parents.
if a parent wants to encourage their own values, the EasyChild system is designed so that you customize with whatever values and ethics that you are trying to instill in your children. You emphasize those behaviors and attitudes and things that are important to you. EasyChild doesn't and shouldn't dictate to other families and parents and children how to live their lives. EasyChild is just a tool to let the children and the parent communicate and make it really clear what it is that they see, need, and want from each other.

The process of setting up EasyChild is enlightening and empowering.
Parents using the built-in quick setups and then customizing, will set down, the expectations and the privileges. Next, parents show the system to the children. The children will immediately say what isn't fair; this doesn’t belong on level A, it belongs on level B. This privilege – this should be 3 points and not 2 points. This should be -3, and I encourage parents to listen to their kids and make some changes. Because at the point which we’ve reached an agreement about behavior, we all know what the rules of the game are with a sense of fairness and responsibility that brings parents and children closer together. You don't want the child to negotiate and say okay, I’ll do this on Level A, but – basically it’s about fairness. At the end of the day, parents and children both want a fair game.

EasyChild is about communication and reaching a family agreement.
The biggest problem that children have is that without structure in their lives, they’re always guessing what their parents expect, they’re always trying to get more, which is natural human thing to do, but they’re doing it in ways like arguing. If arguing works, children will do it. Parents need to change that strategy, arguing to get what they want, to earning it.

How long does it take everyone to kind of get to the point that there generally a high level of acceptance of EasyChild?
The first phase is parents and kids agreeing on how we play and what is fair. Parents should assume that kids are good and that kids are not trying to be disruptive. When parents introduce the system and make the initial agreement, parents assure their children that if they’re doing what’s expected, they’re going to get everything they’re already getting, plus more. Kids will respond and see that there is another way to get what they want and even please their parents.

In about three weeks, parents will see a strategy shift.
The child starts to see that arguing doesn’t get them what they want, but earning gets them what they want. And at that point, we have a child that is now tracking their behavior, who’s going to, do a lot of what’s expected, but they’re not going to do everything. They’re going to make some mistakes. They’re going to argue sometimes. But it’s the parents’ job not to engage in their argument, but simply unemotionally check the worksheet. If the child argues again, check it again. The child quickly sees that the arguing is not getting them closer to their goals, but moving them away from their goals. And then what happens is, this is based on this week’s privileges or – this week’s behavior determines next week’s privileges. So as you go through the week, most children start to track their own sort of points, and they’ll say – they’re start coming to parents and saying well, what extra chore can I do? What can I do to get what I want? Parents and Kids can finally feel they have control over their environment.